please note, it's a girl not a woman.. i still feel OK with so many woman's around me..
like my mom, my grandma, my cousin, and my aunt..
but with this girls don't know why, i feel so interrupted with them..
one of them keep patronizing me, as i am a guilty or bad person and she is a holy one..
i have said, if just saying or giving and advice is so easy
even my grandma who has 70 years old still can give a very wise advice to me..
but the difference is my grandma isn't just saying but she give me a real fact and example too..
i think the real example is more precious than just a thousand words without proof..
let me call this girl with patronize girl's..
she never realize how annoying she is and her words..
every words that she called it advice not feel warming but feel so hurting
yesterday, she spoke to me about sincerity..
"hey, if you giving something or helping someone, you must do it with using some sincerity.
if you use your hearts while doing anything it will be very different and whatever you do, you can enjoy it..
and blah.. blah.. blah.. (sometimes she add some verse from bible to patronizing me)
then at the end she ask to borrow some money to me.. it's six hundred thousand rupiah, exactly
she said, that she want to go for some treatment at spa for her body
but she not yet get the salary for this month..
hmm, hell girl.. a minute ago you speak about sincerity in giving to me, then you rob a lot of money from me
so this is the reason.. yes i understand now..
why she doesn't use her wisely word to advising her self
wasting more than half million just for treat her body ( i think it's not even whole body, maybe just hair, hand and leg).. is it wise?
maybe it will be better if you donating that money to orphanage or give it to people who really need it..
nah it called the true"sincerity" indeed..
sometimes she even dare told me to buying some phone voucher for her
just because she feeling the weather is too hot for her to walking outside...
damn, freaking girl.. (my heart and my mind shouting)
she even not my girl friend or my closer friend but she can told me like that
where is your heart??
you afraid of the sun heat
but you can see me get burned by sun beam to buy your phone voucher
hmm, heartless girl...
yup, everything i think it will be OK
she can be a heartless girl or she can be insincere girl.. y it's her honor
but please don't give a holy advice to me about that
because you don't deserve to said that to me..
you must make a introspection first before you patronizing someone..
if you a robber, so never give an advice to other for not robbing someone
yes she just one of so many annoying girl's that i know..
another girls keep digging up some personal secret or info from me
then she spreading it again to the others..
acting like a best friend in front of me, willing to listen every problem of mine
then she spreading it again to the others..
because all of that, i start becoming hate of girl's..
but it doesn't mean if i become hate all kind of female too.. i'm still a straight man
y i just hate an immature woman, that we know as a girl's
they bad characters that i hate like, materialistic, egoist, stubborn, ignorant, etc..
it so different with (true) woman characters
they can be so motherly, wise, care, genuine, etc..
so the conclusion is from my explanation above is:
girl = immature woman, and woman = mature girl
being mature isn't about age..
some girls can become a woman in such a young age..
being mature is about change..
when you decide to change your behavior from such a cute and spoiled girls
to become more firmly and independent..
in that time the girls has turn to be a woman..
hmm, i think it's little bit weird for a male like me
to write about some female characteristic, but i write this entry
just because i want to share my perception about the difference between girl and woman
because nowadays, there's be a lot of girls who thought if she had become a woman
but in fact they are not..
for the last, i just want to share.. one good article, that i think it's really related to our entry today..
here it is..
It’s amazing how God made man, and so beautiful how he made woman!
Why did God create Woman from Man’s rib, when He could
have simply created her from dust, as He did Man? This
is a story that puts a beautiful touch on the
reasoning:
“When I created the heavens and the earth, I spoke
them into being. When I created man, I formed him from
the dust of the Earth and breathed life into his
nostrils. But you, woman, I fashioned after I breathed
the breath of life into man because your nostrils are
too delicate. I allowed a deep sleep to come over him
so I could patiently and perfectly fashion you. Man
was put to sleep so that he could not interfere with
the creativity. From one bone I fashioned you. I chose
the bone that protects man’s life. I chose the rib,
which protects his heart and lungs and supports him,
as you are meant to do.”
“Around this one bone I shaped you. I modeled you. I
created you perfectly and beautifully. Your
characteristics are as the rib, strong yet delicate
and fragile. You provide protection for the most
delicate organ in man, his heart. His heart is the
center of his being; his lungs hold the breath of
life. The rib cage will allow itself to be broken
before it will allow damage to the heart. Support man
as the rib cage supports the body.”
“You were not taken from his feet, to be under him,
nor were you taken from his head, to be above him. You
were taken from his side, to stand beside him and be
held close to his side. You are my perfect angel. You
are my beautiful little girl. You have grown to be a
splendid woman of excellence, and my eyes fill when I
see the virtue in your heart. Your eyes: don’t change
them. Your lips: how lovely when they part in prayer.
Your nose so perfect in form, your hands so gentle to
touch. I’ve caressed your face in your deepest sleep;
I’ve held your heart close to mine. Of all that lives
and breathes, you are the most like me.”
“Adam walked with me in the cool of the day and yet he
was lonely. He could not see me or touch me. He could
only feel me. So everything I wanted Adam to share and
experience with me, I fashioned in you: my holiness,
my strength, my purity, my love, my protection and
support. You are special because you are the extension
of me.”
“Man represents my image, woman – my emotions.
Together, you represent the totality of God. So man:
treat woman well. Love her, respect her, for she is
fragile. In hurting her, you hurt me. What you do to
her, you do to me. In crushing her, you only damage
your own heart, the heart of your Father and the heart
of her Father. Woman, support man. In humility, show
him the power of emotion I have given you. In gentle
quietness show your strength. In love, show him that
you are the rib that protects his inner self.”
